Advice for the Home-torn, not Love-lorn
My husband and I have been in a committed relationship with our semi-detached, 3-bedroom home for the past 7 years. We purchased as newlyweds and couldn’t have been happier. But recently, the love has left our relationship with our home.
I shamelessly look at other houses whenever I take the kids and dog to the park. One detached house (in particular), on a beautiful, tree-lined street, has caught our attention. I go out of my way to walk or drive past, at all hours.
There is a rumour that the house might be going on the market; it’s almost too much to bear. Is this a simple distraction, or will I be driven to drastic measures??
– Semi-Squeezed in Toronto
Sometimes a relationship reaches its natural end. Is this first home no longer meeting your needs? Has your family grown? The newlywed couple with no kids, that bought your tidy little semi, is long gone. It sounds as if you’re craving a bigger and better nest, in which to keep on growing. No need to feel desperate, drastic, or worse, like a cheater. A move might be the most logical choice.
Reconnect with the realtor, who listened to your needs and helped you find that sweet love nest. They would be thrilled to help you make a clear-headed decision on the next move. Don’t rush into any decisions that you might regret. Slow down, bring your feelings into the open, and I am sure you’ll make the right decision. You will find a great new home that is well-suited to your new needs. Your sweet little semi will welcome home another new buyer who will love it as much as you have.
I’m not sure what to do!! I feel pressured in a relationship. My Aunt Sally has been with me from first steps to first dates, more of a best friend than a stuffy old Aunt
A couple of years ago, after my cousins left for university, she decided to re-enter the workforce and get her real estate licence, just for something to do. She means well, but…between trips to Florida/cottage in the summer, she is not active or up-to-date in the industry.
What to do?? I don’t want to hurt her feelings, but I also don’t want to hurt our chances of buying the best home.
-Love or Money
Dear Love or Money,
You don’t need to give up either, honouring your relationships, or buying your best home. Like any good connection, I am sure yours is built on trust, respect, and open lines of communication. Level with Aunt Sally, let her know how much you adore her, and that you want her beside you every step of the way, but…you’ve decided to put the search in the hands of a full-time professional with a proven track record in the market that you will be looking in. She will understand your desire to work with a qualified professional, and she will appreciate the transparency and respect you have shown her in telling her the truth. At the end of the day, she wants what’s best for you.
The events and people depicted in this article are fictitious. Any similarity to any person living or dead is merely coincidental.