Diary of a New Mama – Balancing Act
Maintaining Work, Life, and Baby
Here I am, 8 p.m. on a Saturday night, writing about balancing work, life, and a baby.
That is the name of the game at the moment, and I am ok with that. A very wise woman who is both a mom and business owner, reminded me to stop trying to chase balance. I was talking to her (more like venting to her) about the fact that, since going back to work (I went back to work three days a week when my son was six months old), I feel like I can’t keep up with life.
Every day feels like I am trying to figure out how to balance home life and work life. Then, by the end of the day, with the list running through my head of the things I did not accomplish, I feel defeated. So, while venting to this experienced mom whose kid is no longer a baby anymore, and whose 20-year business is very successful, I learned something.: The ‘very wise woman’ taught me to drop the need to feel balanced, and let the ebb and flow of daily life do its thing. Chasing this balance would be more exhausting than actual reality. Balance is elusive.
I am now embracing this mentality. It feels good. Sure, I find myself thinking about my work when I am with my son, and thinking about my son when I am working. I am still very new to this routine. However, being gentler with my expectations of balance is a much healthier and wiser approach.
I know that experience will bring newfound wisdom to how I handle, rather than balance, motherhood and working. Knowing that there will be days (likely, very many days) when things are going to be messy, and when my mind feels scattered and I feel pulled in both directions, I can find relief in knowing that is how we transform into wise women ourselves.