Mommy Burnout Series – Part 2
Making Room for Mindfulness
Does the thought of adding another to-do to your day sound overwhelming? Then why should busy moms, like you and me, make room for one more thing? Because, this one thing is essential to keeping the peace at home, work and within. I’m talking about mindfulness.
The practice of mindfulness and meditation has been around for thousands of years. The benefits were evident back then and recent scientific studies are reaffirming them, proving that mindfulness techniques can reduce anxiety and improve mental focus. A self-compassion meditation study for women found that this practice significantly increased body satisfaction and self-worth in 3 weeks! How powerful and amazing is that?!
What is mindfulness?
I describe mindfulness as a therapeutic space of self-awareness, acceptance and being conscious of the present. It’s a space of being, not doing. The most common challenge that mothers I work with have is in finding time to exercise mindfulness. Lack of time is a huge reason for resisting the thought of adding something new into their busy lives. So I came up with mini-mindfulness techniques to give you peaceful breaks in a go-go-go day.
The most common challenge that mothers I work with have is in finding time to exercise mindfulness.
1. Morning Check-In
Some of the most successful and influential people on the planet begin their day with a statement, mantra or affirmation. I teach moms to begin the day with an internal check-in: do I feel connected, do I feel aligned, do I feel whole? If you wake up in a crummy mood, the entire morning seems that much harder. If you start your day in line with how you want to feel, it sets you up for a more grounded and intentional day. Take a moment in the morning to connect with yourself and set the tone for the day.
If you wake up in a crummy mood, the entire morning seems that much harder.
2. Savour the Moment
Although it’s impossible to give undivided attention all the time, it’s possible to practice mindfulness in the moments you are able to fully engage with your little one. Sit, play, listen and watch a minute or two longer with a heart of gratitude and zero worry about what needs to get done next.
3. Loving Language
Self-compassion can be a game-changer when it comes to creating peace in a chaotic day. Be mindful of your head-talk language. If things aren’t going your way, what words or phrases play in your mind? Speak to yourself in a way that you would speak to the one you love, respect and honour the most. The inner critic has a real nasty way of talking and it can have damaging effects on how you feel. Silence the negative head-talk with words of encouragement and self-appreciation.
Speak to yourself in a way that you would speak to the one you love, respect and honour the most.
There are many ways to integrate mindfulness into your lifestyle. Find ones that nurture your needs and that you enjoy. Creating time and space to take care of you doesn’t have to feel like a chore or another to-do. See it as a well-deserved daily gift to yourself.
Dr. Sindy Shin, ND is a Mother’s Wellness Expert and Mama to her two little angels. Her private practice focuses on teaching sustainable ways to take care of your body, so it can take care of you. qwellness.ca