The Modern Moms’ Guide to Calming Stress – Part 1
Slowing Down a Fast-Paced World
I recently supported a group of mothers through a challenge to release stress in their lives. I shared simple lifestyle and mindset strategies that work to gain calm control over how we feel, so you can feel more like you again. There’s no better time like the present to set the tone for this brand new year ahead. So, I’m inspired to share with you a collection of tips and tools in this three-part series, dedicated to helping busy, modern moms calm stress in their lives.
There’s a desire to unplug and unwind, especially in the city. A simple study done a little while back compared two groups of drivers. One group was asked to rush from point A to point B in busy traffic. The other group was asked to take their time. The rushed drivers arrived at the destination a couple minutes faster (on average) than the other group. When asked about stress, the rushed group reported significantly higher levels of stress. My takeaway: Is arriving at the destination a bit faster worth the stress?
One of the most common reasons why people feel stressed is because they feel rushed. Not enough time in the day to get everything done. I’ve created a process called the Pick Your Pace strategy that gives you the space to move through your day at a pace that suits how you want to feel.
Here are 3 Pick Your Pace tips to help release the stress of feeling rushed:
1. Slow Down a Smidge
Slow down how you move through your day normally, just slightly. This creates space to be more present in whatever you’re doing without having to completely change how you’re used to functioning, for now.
This could be slowing down in conversation to engage more and prevent miscommunication, which can be stressful. It could be slowing your pace between each thing you’re doing so you give yourself space to think – did I grab my lunch? pack my keys? I enjoyed that meal. I really love that song…
2. Sticky Note It
There are certain times in the day that are more prone to feeling rushed than others. For example, MORNINGS. Getting to work on time, getting kids to school on time, making it to that morning gym class…etc.
If there are things that you know you need to take with you (keys, food, phone, important docs, etc.), write a reminder on a sticky note and put it on your door, the night before, where it’s impossible for you to miss it. This relieves running thoughts of things that you can’t forget, as you’re trying to relax for bed, because you know you’ve taken care of it.
3. Permission to Pause
This is a big one. If you only use one tip today, try to make it this one. You need moments of rest during the day. Too often, we give power to reasons why we have to keep pushing on. It’s driving the burnout epidemic!
You’ll notice a change in the way you feel quickly, if you give yourself time to rest, recharge and reset every single day. Just like you recharge your phone that you love so dearly, recharge yourself, too. It might look like a mini meditation, a few deep breaths, a power nap, some fresh air or a 10-minute walk. As long as it’s something that recharges you and lifts your spirits, it’s all good.
I hope you find these tips to be a helpful way to savour the moments in all the beauty and chaos of it all. I’ll be seeing you soon for Part 2.
SINDY SHIN, ND As a Calm Mama Expert, Sindy helps busy moms breakthrough stress, anxiety and overwhelm, so they can have the calm presence they need to be con dent for whatever comes their way. But, at the heart of it all, she teaches modern moms how to embraceself-care and reconnect with themselves, so they can thrive with power and grace. To meet Dr. Sindy, visit www.qwellness.ca or learn more at www.sindyshin.com